Cost of Happiness

"I am happy!!" People think they are happy if they have a laugh, or buy their dream home, car, dream job, have a "complete" family etc. etc. So, i was wondering what about those who don't have many of those..endless lists. Are they not happy? They are also happy in their own terms. What will they do if the house catches on fire, you lose your job? You become unhappy?? But, to the former group, there is a huge cost to being happy. Unless they get more of such things, they can never "increase their happiness". Hence, happiness becomes costly. Such happiness is temporary. That is why we always crave to be with someone or something all the time. To derive some happiness from their presence or that thing in some form or another. Going out with friends all time , that european trip, that posh restaurant etc. How long does it last, anyway?? Hmm..Happiness is a state of mind.A constant state of such a mind brings bliss @ peace. How do you get it??

The infamous islamic greeting "Assalaamu alaikkum wa rahmathullah wabarakaatu". (Let there be peace and prosperity with you). It is beneficial for any muslim to say it whenever S/he meets another. Why the hell do we say it? Ofcourse, everyone wants peace. But, will it come just by saying it?? I , say, Yes. It is like if you keep repeating to yourself "i am moody" or "i am happy". Unknowingly, somehow you become that. Sort of a sub-conscious effect.In a muslim country, you end up greeting some one atleast 10 times. In the process, you end up repeating it and you somehow become peaceful over a period of time. But, the essence has to be meant when you say it. It has to be meant whole-heartedly. Not like you just say it and then you backbite; which is the norm nowadays, mostly.

Then, the realization or truth that what all you see aroound is not real. But, how do you realize it? Well, if you can answer the question to where the hell will you go after your death, might provoke some thought. All religion have their own version about it. But, none has proof of it. And, the dead can never come back to tell you the truth. People live as if they never die. If anyone could come back after their death, they may tell that truth. Sounds stupid. eh?? Well, it is upto you to realize it.

so, when some sort of such realization enters your mind, you will not give much importance to any thing happening around. You will be in a constant. And, that constant could give you bliss.You wont be too happy or too sad. Just balanced!! What i am trying to say is, YOU should be the reason for your happiness. YOU should be the source of it. YOU should not derive it from your surroundings, WHOMEVER or WHATEVER!! If you realize that everything around you is temporary, you will become a constant. And, then you will realize what to really do in life!

What keeps you going...

Knowledge!!.The only thing that is the driver in your brain! Everything else will make life mundane ..ur job, ur car, ur anything will become less interesting as time goes by.. The only way to keep up the enthusiasm in life is to read and gain knowledge. Knowledge gives you new thoughts. New directions. The brain will work only if it gets inputs. No input, No output. No output, no interesting life. This is what happens to people in any job over some time. They just lose it. No sense of direction. No signboards to guide them. They live, live and live untill one day they realize how much they have wasted...But, then it will be too late.

Am i a Muslim?

Some say they are muslims, even though :
1. they pray only 4 times a day. The negelection of fajr(prayer before dawn) prayer is "understandable".
2. they don't even pray and still claim to be one. Some say i am not a "practising muslim". Looks like it is a new category "non-practising "muslim" "!!
3. they talk bad behind others and smile in front of them.
4. For the "muslim" ladies with the hijab(esp. the head covering): The head scarf represents a religion. It is not just to make you look good. Some so called "muslim" ladies, who cover their heads,do the following:

1. Smoking in public

2. The single and eligible ones spend days and nights with single men. If you "want" him, go get married.Dont just screw around in public places with your head covered, as you should understand that your attire represents Islam. It indicates being pious. It indicates being humble.Ofcourse, today's social circumstances demand the interaction between the singles. But, pl. keep it within limits. If you want to exceed the limit, take off your head scarf and continue your screwing around. Pl. don't malign the religion. The non-believers who see you in the public during unearthly hours may tend to think that "single" muslim girls are just not any better. Your action defects the image of the truly pious ones who cover their head and lead a life within limits.

3. Some wear really tight or figure hugging hijab. The purpose of the hijab itself is gone.

5. For the "muslim" guys: If you want to booze, do it alone. Not with the non-believers. As your name itself represents the religion and the same malignment as above happens.

6. Some still continue to do the all above during the holy month of ramzan, even worse. Guys, take a break for atleast a month!! I have seen the so-called
"muslims" perform worser acts. I had to be a witness of it when the non-believers just laugh at them, saying.."See, look at 'em, even during this month, they
are ...". In a way, they are laughing at Islam.

7. Husbands cheating wives and vice versa.

The message is to those so called "muslims" who do irreligious or haram avtivities. If you can't control "it", pl. do so at you own whim,but spare Islam.Change your name or remove your head scarf and continue your life. But, Spare the religion. If you can't control it, atleast ACT as a muslim so that others don't think bad about the religion.

There is no use in warning them also. They just don't heed.They just won't understand. But, then, we can always do out part of advising them.It is said that turning a blind eye towards evil is in a way participating in it, indirectly.

Being a muslim signifies purity of the heart and soul, just like that of a new born baby.But, atleast now you know, what to do...Am i a Muslim? I am not. Will i be? I still can. It is just a state of mind. Why i should i be one? Don't ask me. I jus want to believe!!

Keeping Hopes...

Ass 1: My Boss gives me loads of work and keeps beating me always

Ass 2: then, why don't you run away?

Ass 1: I would have run away, but the future looks bright here. My boss keeps saying to his daughter that if she misbehaves anytime he will marry her off to that ass... I hope it will happen.

MORAL OF THE STORY: KEEPING HOPES MAY NOT IMPROVE YOUR FUTURE BUT WILL CERTAINLY REDUCE YOUR PAIN TODAY... :-

The way the SYSTEM works..

I was trying to understand why is that some people are rich, some poor, some sad, some happy and so and so. A very usual question i tend to face at times during those rare god-based topics is that why isn't that all are not happy, rich or whatever good things. Since all miseries are happening in this world along with the good things, some people just disbelieve the existence of such a super natural force.

Well, actually my topic is not God. It is about the way the system works. What i mean by the system is that the system we live in,i.e., our life, our surroundings, anything or anyone that is related to us. Anything or anyone is there around us because there is some purpose in it that would give some meaning(good or bad) to us or because we have been looking/ searching for it consciously or unconsiously (unconsiously doesn't mean when you are drugged smoking pot and lie there.. it means without our active knowledge). The reason i dragged god in between was that we all, in general, tend to blame him/her (as per your belief) if things go bad. A very usual reaction of human beings. Generally, starting with.. WHY ME GOD?? WHY ME??? and then the rest of the cribbing towards god starts... ending with some sob-sob.

Let's try to analyse the way the world works and stop blaming for sometime. Lets take the case of Billgates and Dawood ibrahim (A notorious gangster/smuggler).Since, they belong to the super rich category, both should be living a happy life, as per the definition of the materialistic world. Now, i am not trying to analyse whether they are happy or not. What i want to analyse is how they really became wealthy? Well, we all know it. Now, my question is that if god is the supreme example of everything good, will he actually "bless" dawood ibrahim so that he can amass all the wealth he has. And, that too will God actually support such violent and bloody methods of obtaining wealth. Forget God for a moment. Will you or me(asssuming that we are normal and good hearted souls) support such methods. Obviously, NO! So, if WE do not support, how can the one who created us will? Again, obviously, NOT! (Just trying to understand god here). So, coming back to dawood ibrahim, if god din't bless him with such wealth, how did he make it?....

Now, that god is out of topic, there should be something else that is aiding one to get what s/he
wants? The only other thing we know is.... us!! you or me!! after discounting the dog in your
lawn..that finally boils down to the person who has been cribbing and wailing to god. As per me or many others, it all depends on the person as of where he wants to go, what he wants to do and what he wants to get in life. The SYSTEM as such has been already created in such a way that you really would get what you are looking for if you really try hard with all your heart and soul. If you dont get it, then it is not your's. Live with what you get after you know you have given your best. But, one search will lead to other and one fine day you will definitely understand why you went through all those mazes and sufferings in life? If you don't then you still have not learnt the lesson this system was trying to teach you.

There is this scene in the series LOST which has a really meaningful dialogue. It is when sun-hwa kwon loses all her hope of finding her wedding ring which got lost in the island. Locke(my fav. character) helps her to find it. When they find it, sun asks "how did you find?". Locke says "It is just like how you find any other lost thing? when u start looking...".. (Not the exact dialogue but it means that only if you really start looking, you will get it). Just look
around.. for motivation and change and work towards it. You will find it. Just like you find any other lost thing.

Have you ever thought for a moment that anything and everything around you should have come out from the mind of one single person. One thought from one person that has changed many things around you. The kind of thought Ratan tata (Head of Tata Group) had that made him to create the cheapest car which is now compared to the Ford's model-T for the kind of revolution it could bring about in the automobile industry. Things like that.........

So, now you know how it works... Basically, YOU make it work.... YOU and ONLY YOU. Your belief, your passion, your hardwork, your discipline, your patience, your zeal, your enthusiasm .. these are some of the things that makes your life.

(Note: I am not being an athiest here. Just for the point of view, God helped me out :) )

Why..

Why.. Why should i feel better when i win a game?
Why not when i lose it?

Why shud i feel better when i have better prospects of making money..
Why not with what i have?

Why shud i feel better when i talk to ppl. ?
Why not when i dont ?

Why do i feel better when i am in a group of known ppl.
and not when i am not?

Why do i judge the good things, good and bad things, bad. ?
Why can't bad things b good and good things bad ?
Who decides it? me?? or is it because others have decided?

Why do i think about tomorrow , today and do the same thing tomorrow and miss both.

Why is that i work better when i get incentives and not when i dont?
Why can't i just work not thinking about the result but about the process?

Why do i look for appreciation from others and why not appreciate myself?

Why is love, good and hate, bad? Why can't everything be good?

Why is it i am the way i am??? (The biggest why..)

why is it i like the way i AM sometimes and not so someother time?

why can't i like myself all the time? As this is the way, I AM .

Why am i writing this post now?? cuz i dont know wut else to do sitting at office waiting for that meeting to happen??

Ammaaji..

I recently shifted to a flat in punjagutta(hyderabad). The place is in the heart of the city and is good enough for bachelor living. There is this old lady who comes to cook and do other tasks whom we call "Ammaaji". In dictionary terms, she would be called as a maid. But, she never ever considers herself as one. I mean normally maids do their work to our unsatisfactory levels (at times), don't talk and just leave. But, the thing about Ammaaji is her ownnership of work. She considers that place as her own. Does all the tasks even without we saying it. Tells us to have food at proper time. Has a lill sense of humour at times. Cheerful and simple. She handles things so well that sometimes i feel she is the owner of the place and gives me a sense of easiness as i don't have to say much as of what has to be done. No wonder i have already decided to give her a hike.

I was comparing her state of mind with our's. Most of us goto office just like the maid. Do our work and go back. No interest, nothing. Plain living deads. But, then there are some without whom work cannot happen, some like our ammaaji. Though, they are in sub-ordinate levels the ownership they take sets them apart.What i am trying to infer here is.. whatever you do, do it to your best! The rest will follow.