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Cost of Happiness

2011-06-24T11:25:00.007-04:00

"I am happy!!" People think they are happy if they have a laugh, or buy their dream home, car, dream job, have a "complete" family etc. etc. So, i was wondering what about those who don't have many of those..endless lists. Are they not happy? They are also happy in their own terms. What will they do if the house catches on fire, you lose your job? You become unhappy?? But, to the former group, there is a huge cost to being happy. Unless they get more of such things, they can never "increase their happiness". Hence, happiness becomes costly. Such happiness is temporary. That is why we always crave to be with someone or something all the time. To derive some happiness from their presence or that thing in some form or another. Going out with friends all time , that european trip, that posh restaurant etc. How long does it last, anyway?? Hmm..Happiness is a state of mind.A constant state of such a mind brings bliss @ peace. How do you get it??

The infamous islamic greeting "Assalaamu alaikkum wa rahmathullah wabarakaatu". (Let there be peace and prosperity with you). It is beneficial for any muslim to say it whenever S/he meets another. Why the hell do we say it? Ofcourse, everyone wants peace. But, will it come just by saying it?? I , say, Yes. It is like if you keep repeating to yourself "i am moody" or "i am happy". Unknowingly, somehow you become that. Sort of a sub-conscious effect.In a muslim country, you end up greeting some one atleast 10 times. In the process, you end up repeating it and you somehow become peaceful over a period of time. But, the essence has to be meant when you say it. It has to be meant whole-heartedly. Not like you just say it and then you backbite; which is the norm nowadays, mostly.

Then, the realization or truth that what all you see aroound is not real. But, how do you realize it? Well, if you can answer the question to where the hell will you go after your death, might provoke some thought. All religion have their own version about it. But, none has proof of it. And, the dead can never come back to tell you the truth. People live as if they never die. If anyone could come back after their death, they may tell that truth. Sounds stupid. eh?? Well, it is upto you to realize it.

so, when some sort of such realization enters your mind, you will not give much importance to any thing happening around. You will be in a constant. And, that constant could give you bliss.You wont be too happy or too sad. Just balanced!! What i am trying to say is, YOU should be the reason for your happiness. YOU should be the source of it. YOU should not derive it from your surroundings, WHOMEVER or WHATEVER!! If you realize that everything around you is temporary, you will become a constant. And, then you will realize what to really do in life!

What keeps you going...

2011-03-11T06:05:00.005-05:00

Knowledge!!.The only thing that is the driver in your brain! Everything else will make life mundane ..ur job, ur car, ur anything will become less interesting as time goes by.. The only way to keep up the enthusiasm in life is to read and gain knowledge. Knowledge gives you new thoughts. New directions. The brain will work only if it gets inputs. No input, No output. No output, no interesting life. This is what happens to people in any job over some time. They just lose it. No sense of direction. No signboards to guide them. They live, live and live untill one day they realize how much they have wasted...But, then it will be too late.

Am i a Muslim?

2010-03-27T21:41:00.003-04:00

Some say they are muslims, even though :
1. they pray only 4 times a day. The negelection of fajr(prayer before dawn) prayer is "understandable".
2. they don't even pray and still claim to be one. Some say i am not a "practising muslim". Looks like it is a new category "non-practising "muslim" "!!
3. they talk bad behind others and smile in front of them.
4. For the "muslim" ladies with the hijab(esp. the head covering): The head scarf represents a religion. It is not just to make you look good. Some so called "muslim" ladies, who cover their heads,do the following:

1. Smoking in public

2. The single and eligible ones spend days and nights with single men. If you "want" him, go get married.Dont just screw around in public places with your head covered, as you should understand that your attire represents Islam. It indicates being pious. It indicates being humble.Ofcourse, today's social circumstances demand the interaction between the singles. But, pl. keep it within limits. If you want to exceed the limit, take off your head scarf and continue your screwing around. Pl. don't malign the religion. The non-believers who see you in the public during unearthly hours may tend to think that "single" muslim girls are just not any better. Your action defects the image of the truly pious ones who cover their head and lead a life within limits.

3. Some wear really tight or figure hugging hijab. The purpose of the hijab itself is gone.

5. For the "muslim" guys: If you want to booze, do it alone. Not with the non-believers. As your name itself represents the religion and the same malignment as above happens.

6. Some still continue to do the all above during the holy month of ramzan, even worse. Guys, take a break for atleast a month!! I have seen the so-called
"muslims" perform worser acts. I had to be a witness of it when the non-believers just laugh at them, saying.."See, look at 'em, even during this month, they
are ...". In a way, they are laughing at Islam.

7. Husbands cheating wives and vice versa.

The message is to those so called "muslims" who do irreligious or haram avtivities. If you can't control "it", pl. do so at you own whim,but spare Islam.Change your name or remove your head scarf and continue your life. But, Spare the religion. If you can't control it, atleast ACT as a muslim so that others don't think bad about the religion.

There is no use in warning them also. They just don't heed.They just won't understand. But, then, we can always do out part of advising them.It is said that turning a blind eye towards evil is in a way participating in it, indirectly.

Being a muslim signifies purity of the heart and soul, just like that of a new born baby.But, atleast now you know, what to do...Am i a Muslim? I am not. Will i be? I still can. It is just a state of mind. Why i should i be one? Don't ask me. I jus want to believe!!

Keeping Hopes...

2008-10-16T14:49:00.005-04:00

Ass 1: My Boss gives me loads of work and keeps beating me always

Ass 2: then, why don't you run away?

Ass 1: I would have run away, but the future looks bright here. My boss keeps saying to his daughter that if she misbehaves anytime he will marry her off to that ass... I hope it will happen.

MORAL OF THE STORY: KEEPING HOPES MAY NOT IMPROVE YOUR FUTURE BUT WILL CERTAINLY REDUCE YOUR PAIN TODAY... :-

The way the SYSTEM works..

2008-01-16T07:53:00.000-05:00

I was trying to understand why is that some people are rich, some poor, some sad, some happy and so and so. A very usual question i tend to face at times during those rare god-based topics is that why isn't that all are not happy, rich or whatever good things. Since all miseries are happening in this world along with the good things, some people just disbelieve the existence of such a super natural force.

Well, actually my topic is not God. It is about the way the system works. What i mean by the system is that the system we live in,i.e., our life, our surroundings, anything or anyone that is related to us. Anything or anyone is there around us because there is some purpose in it that would give some meaning(good or bad) to us or because we have been looking/ searching for it consciously or unconsiously (unconsiously doesn't mean when you are drugged smoking pot and lie there.. it means without our active knowledge). The reason i dragged god in between was that we all, in general, tend to blame him/her (as per your belief) if things go bad. A very usual reaction of human beings. Generally, starting with.. WHY ME GOD?? WHY ME??? and then the rest of the cribbing towards god starts... ending with some sob-sob.

Let's try to analyse the way the world works and stop blaming for sometime. Lets take the case of Billgates and Dawood ibrahim (A notorious gangster/smuggler).Since, they belong to the super rich category, both should be living a happy life, as per the definition of the materialistic world. Now, i am not trying to analyse whether they are happy or not. What i want to analyse is how they really became wealthy? Well, we all know it. Now, my question is that if god is the supreme example of everything good, will he actually "bless" dawood ibrahim so that he can amass all the wealth he has. And, that too will God actually support such violent and bloody methods of obtaining wealth. Forget God for a moment. Will you or me(asssuming that we are normal and good hearted souls) support such methods. Obviously, NO! So, if WE do not support, how can the one who created us will? Again, obviously, NOT! (Just trying to understand god here). So, coming back to dawood ibrahim, if god din't bless him with such wealth, how did he make it?....

Now, that god is out of topic, there should be something else that is aiding one to get what s/he
wants? The only other thing we know is.... us!! you or me!! after discounting the dog in your
lawn..that finally boils down to the person who has been cribbing and wailing to god. As per me or many others, it all depends on the person as of where he wants to go, what he wants to do and what he wants to get in life. The SYSTEM as such has been already created in such a way that you really would get what you are looking for if you really try hard with all your heart and soul. If you dont get it, then it is not your's. Live with what you get after you know you have given your best. But, one search will lead to other and one fine day you will definitely understand why you went through all those mazes and sufferings in life? If you don't then you still have not learnt the lesson this system was trying to teach you.

There is this scene in the series LOST which has a really meaningful dialogue. It is when sun-hwa kwon loses all her hope of finding her wedding ring which got lost in the island. Locke(my fav. character) helps her to find it. When they find it, sun asks "how did you find?". Locke says "It is just like how you find any other lost thing? when u start looking...".. (Not the exact dialogue but it means that only if you really start looking, you will get it). Just look
around.. for motivation and change and work towards it. You will find it. Just like you find any other lost thing.

Have you ever thought for a moment that anything and everything around you should have come out from the mind of one single person. One thought from one person that has changed many things around you. The kind of thought Ratan tata (Head of Tata Group) had that made him to create the cheapest car which is now compared to the Ford's model-T for the kind of revolution it could bring about in the automobile industry. Things like that.........

So, now you know how it works... Basically, YOU make it work.... YOU and ONLY YOU. Your belief, your passion, your hardwork, your discipline, your patience, your zeal, your enthusiasm .. these are some of the things that makes your life.

(Note: I am not being an athiest here. Just for the point of view, God helped me out :) )

Why..

2007-09-05T09:37:00.000-04:00

Why.. Why should i feel better when i win a game?
Why not when i lose it?

Why shud i feel better when i have better prospects of making money..
Why not with what i have?

Why shud i feel better when i talk to ppl. ?
Why not when i dont ?

Why do i feel better when i am in a group of known ppl.
and not when i am not?

Why do i judge the good things, good and bad things, bad. ?
Why can't bad things b good and good things bad ?
Who decides it? me?? or is it because others have decided?

Why do i think about tomorrow , today and do the same thing tomorrow and miss both.

Why is that i work better when i get incentives and not when i dont?
Why can't i just work not thinking about the result but about the process?

Why do i look for appreciation from others and why not appreciate myself?

Why is love, good and hate, bad? Why can't everything be good?

Why is it i am the way i am??? (The biggest why..)

why is it i like the way i AM sometimes and not so someother time?

why can't i like myself all the time? As this is the way, I AM .

Why am i writing this post now?? cuz i dont know wut else to do sitting at office waiting for that meeting to happen??

Ammaaji..

2007-06-27T02:58:00.000-04:00

I recently shifted to a flat in punjagutta(hyderabad). The place is in the heart of the city and is good enough for bachelor living. There is this old lady who comes to cook and do other tasks whom we call "Ammaaji". In dictionary terms, she would be called as a maid. But, she never ever considers herself as one. I mean normally maids do their work to our unsatisfactory levels (at times), don't talk and just leave. But, the thing about Ammaaji is her ownnership of work. She considers that place as her own. Does all the tasks even without we saying it. Tells us to have food at proper time. Has a lill sense of humour at times. Cheerful and simple. She handles things so well that sometimes i feel she is the owner of the place and gives me a sense of easiness as i don't have to say much as of what has to be done. No wonder i have already decided to give her a hike.

I was comparing her state of mind with our's. Most of us goto office just like the maid. Do our work and go back. No interest, nothing. Plain living deads. But, then there are some without whom work cannot happen, some like our ammaaji. Though, they are in sub-ordinate levels the ownership they take sets them apart.What i am trying to infer here is.. whatever you do, do it to your best! The rest will follow.

mm.. Do i like you?...

2006-12-08T17:23:00.000-05:00

I was just wondering what makes people like/adore others? .. Well, what is it?Lets see. Some of them may be; their attitude, mannerisms, patience, looks (muscles and bones in the right place, with a nice covering called skin!!), boldness, innocence, honesty, intelligence, insane jokes, or slightly not-so-famous things such as laid-back life, driving skills.basically, anything you can think of. I, once, happened to read somewhere that one starts liking someone as they find themselves in others. This is true. May be one who is not-so-talkative may tend to like talkative people as he/she also wanted to be like him/her. They find that something which they really wanted to do in their real life, is in others and since they ain't so much like the other or not so good at that trait, they start liking others as they find their better part in others. It is basically searching yourself in your friend, your bro, sis, mate or anyone. And, so they tend to meet more people, socialize and do all sorts of things to find their better part in others. This is an un-ending search. That is what i have realised.

I used to wonder about all those stories about that famous saints who go to the mountains, away from civilizations, living a secluded life. They seem to be very contended about their life.(yes, as per the story, i din seen anyone from the mountains till now :) i am talkin bout the true ones not the fake swamis of today's). No hurry, no anger, no negative emotions, nothing. Just peace. I sometimes meet people like that who once you talk with them you will feel at peace and ease. Not necessarily a saint though. But, something of that sort. I assume these people are those who stop searching for their own selves in others and start looking within. (That's some topic which i wrote earlier and which isn't going anywhere.. mm..tis getting dragged a bit, though). I know some friends of mine who are like modern swamis. They live alone. I never could understand that.living alone?? Seems they are like budding-swamis of de future! ;). living in high-rise apartments rather than those old mountains. But, they seem to be pretty balanced to an extent... in thoughts, actions et all. .. are they struggling with themselves to free themselves from some unknown, un-explainable forces? Well, everyone does struggle. But this particular struggle should do good to the self to a large extent.STOP Searching, start LIVING!!.. (mm.. how do i do that?? :( ..

YOU define ME.??..

2006-10-31T11:48:00.000-05:00

Us.. human beings..? Do we have a tendency to hate someone or some past cuz they did one mistake eventhough they would have done a 1000 good things.I wonder why it happens? Why can't we look at the good things and move on in life? Is this why people tend to live with memories which they term as bad? Just think about it. May be the person who was responsible for your present would have done many things to make you happy at that time. Out of love or friendship, they would have done lot many wonderful things to make you smile, to see you happy and some thing happens somewhere that breaks it all. All those wonder days become bad memories because of that 1 (or 2) mistakes which they do and is given top priority. We are prone to do mistakes in our lives. That is what teach us not to do it in the future. But, shouldn't we be thankful to the person who makes us realise it? Our shortcomings et all which has made us a better person today?

Should n't we forgive them for their so called mistakes as though we are perfect?? If we are not perfect and if we also do mistakes who are we not to forgive them? All of a sudden they start behaving strangely as if they didn't know us at all or they do not want to know us. Sometimes it is so strange that it hurts. And, they also live with that hurt? NOTHING can surpass the system we have inside us. It knows when we do wrong or right eventhough some wrongs are compulsively termed as right by the outside world and therefore by us. I do not want to cheat me, let alone others. People start hating others when others fall short of some expectations. Expectations.. which others may not be able to reach to. Life becomes out of control when you expect something from others and when you don't get it, you blame them as if you are perfect. Silly you and me! I do not want to expect anything from others. If i am worth, i will and should get it. That is all i know. I have been getting some really "good" definitions about me.
WHO ARE YOU TO DEFINE ME? .. I wonder.. But, i still love you for what you are.!! cuz you were and are good at some point of time. cuz i also do mistakes and i do not have any right to criticize you or expect anything from you. And, that is all i know and want to know.

a sweet smile..

2006-10-26T12:51:00.000-04:00

One of the most interesting "event"in a human life, i wud say is that the initial "attraction" phase btw a guy and a gal, apart from doing some interesting work.Today, in train, it was fun watchin a lovely gal and a smart-looking guy(no, it is not me!!;) ). The guy boarded the train from my station and the gal was in it already. The gal had a small hidden smile always.. she was very restless. turning this side, the other side, trying to do the famous "eye-locking" tactic with the guy. she stood opposite to the guy and i was behind him. she wud turn the other side sometimes and after sometime to his side. She din wanna go away from him eventhough the crowd was tryin to push her off as she was near the door. The guy was listening to i-pod, sometimes closing his eyes as if hez really listening and din notice the girl. this happens all the time with us guys. When some chic passes along, we tend to act "gentleman".. may be tis tru with girls also. Wasted act, i would say. May be those two were kinda "meeting" eachother for quite some days, going by the looks of it. You should have seen her smile. It wuz so .. nice .. to see. They din talk at all. Jus some gestures now and then. The Truth here being both are attracted and both want one to talk and break the ice.I really wanted to help her out in gettin connected to tat fella. That is when i realised, this is one of the most interesting phase of human life. The initial phase.. innocent and funny. Well, guys if yu get some chance like tat, do smile to tat girl. Don't be an A** like me who keep staring at them and take some time to break the ice. By the time, i realise tat i shud talk now, the girl wud already assume tat i m some jerk. Poor me!! bit shy fella. Most of the time, i go ... "duh"..sigh.. how many "opportunities" i missed like tat!! ;P.
So, girls and guys, Put up a smile and make new relations. Every relation starts with a smile... somethin like "Mona lisa" smile :)

I Seek..

2006-10-11T16:52:00.000-04:00

I started seeking for it..
I search for it in my mom, dad, bro, sis..
assuming their affection and love will make me attain it..
I search for it my friends
assuming that being with them for some while will make me feel it..
I search for it in my work
assuming that work will help me get it..
I search for it in my probable life mate
assuming that she will help me achieve it..
I assume, I will get it when I do what I want to do..
I assume, I will get it as long as I keep searching for it in the outside of me..
Outside !! ... Everywhere, in everyone, in everything
But, Alas, i could not find it!

There is still a void somehwere!!
But, there is still one place left to search..
Let me search in the inside of me..
to find it...
to find peace!!!
Let peace be with me!!
And, the search still goes on...

Rules for Simple life!

2006-07-02T01:20:00.000-04:00

1. Love thy WORK.
2. OBSERVE and LEARN.
3. Do your prayers.
4. Be INDEPENDENT.
5. Maintain LIMITS.
6. Do not take anyone/anything for GRANTED including yourself and your closest relations. Give them their FREEDOM. And, you will get your's.
7. Kill your FEAR. (try out things which you fear and know how it actually feels...Try again), Do not fear people around you. Fear only your consciense.Let your conscience be your guide.
8. Talk to the point. If you can't talk during a tense situation, do not talk. It will make things worse. Think and talk later. Apologize, when you are wrong.
9. Do not do the same mistake more than twice.
10. Finally, learn to let go and RELAX.
FREE YOUR MIND!.. HAVE FUN.!! YOU BE YOUR BEST FRIEND!!
Now,....... take a DEEEEEEEEEEP breath.
:)

i OWN my children..

2006-05-16T17:37:00.000-04:00

NDTV Correspondent

Tuesday, May 16, 2006 (New Delhi):

The suicide of schoolgirl Shefali is linked to concerns over exam results and pressure from parents.

The Class 10 student of Sanskriti School in Delhi died by hanging last week.

Experts point out that children feel the pressure because parents want to have the final say on the courses and college they select.

"My best friend is being forced take science although she wants to do arts. Her parents think that she will be much more successful in it because both her brothers also did science," said a student.

Psychologist Sunil Mittal says parents should understand their child’s capabilities and communication with them is very important.
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http://www.ndtv.com/morenews/showmorestory.asp?category=National&slug=Student+suicide+linked+to+pressures&id=88010

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The above is one among the 100s of cases that happened in india.. and there are lots more who wud want to follow Shefali. Well, parents have the right to decide what their children should do. But their rights ends after expressing their views.Parents can correct them when they are doing mistakes which are against the moral sense.

Compulsion leads to seperation btw parent and children. CHILDREN ARE MY PROPERTY - this is the INDIAN PARENT's MENTALITY.. and that too of well-educated parents.. Education or age doesn't bring maturity.. Only the problems and successful resolution of the problems bring maturity.. the more and faster you face it, the better.

STATUTORY WARNING: CHILDREN ARE NOT YOUR PROPERTY!! YOU DO NOT "OWN" THEM !
My dear parents, are you listening. !!

YOU are supposed to guide them through their path and not apply blinds on them like on to a donkey and compel them to walk your path. Limits should be understood. Only a properly brought up child will take care of you during your older years.. folks!
Remember that!

A child should not be viewed as a businees investment which will give returns when you get old. The investment here should be more than money!!! doesn't mean more money! There is no need for me to write here wat it shud be! you can guess it. Depends on how much sense you have!

The pic above shows the exact state of most children now... blind-folded(so that they cannot do wat they really want to do) and burdened.!!

How am I, now ?

2006-05-16T12:10:00.000-04:00

"The nature of their relationships had the same quality. There was no passion in it, no desire, no actual pleasure, not even a sense of shame. To them, the act of sex was neither joy nor sin. It meant nothing. They had heard that men and women are supposed to sleep together, so they did."

- from Atlas shrugged - Ayn Rand

Is something ringing somewhere, budd? well, i have seen many ppl. live a life like this and still seeing. Just living because others also do the same thing. Just doing cuz others will criticize them..And, therefore, i should also do it .. Do it without any purpose, meaning and satisfaction. 'Sex' as mentioned above is just one of the acts.

Just imagine.. living under the same roof, seeing eachother everyday, eating, sleeping, talking, all with a lot of emptiness.!! ..coming baq frm work to home whn u sometimes feel tat whether it is really a home?? or jus another place of shelter?...

tis better to live alone rather than live like that! Atleast, u need to prove only to you.. not anyone else!

Ask "How am i?" , everytime .. more than the number of times u ask others.. how are you??..!!

It's All about ME - OW.. ! :)

Quotes

2006-05-10T11:25:00.000-04:00

1. When you cannot do something till you live, do not do it from day one.
2. When you do something, do it so that no one else does it better.. And, Do it with utmost discipline,patience and without hope. JUST DO IT!
3. When you pray, ask to make your character and attitude the best. Everything else
will follow.
4. Life has it's choices. Choose any one and do not change it.
5. I know what to do and i really know that this is it when i do it everyday.

Creator does it right.. always!!

2006-04-21T16:30:00.000-04:00

Have u observed when someone creates something.? For ex. u create a simple
document wit some business proposal. u try to make it as perfect as
possible.. i mean, if u ask urself some opinion bout ur doc then u won't
find any fault in it.. nothing negative will be associated with it.
evrything will be positive. Now, imagine god creating this world. DO you
think he wud create it with any negative forces or thoughts.. He being so
perfect wud ve defenitely made the world with perfect positive forces. i
mean the way he shud ve made tis world is when he made it he made it in
such a way that it is filled with positive energies and feelings like
beauty, confidence, success, optimisim, friendships, love and all other
positive things.. It is us who try to find negative things like being
unsuccesfull, pessimism, jealousy, ego and the likes.. just like some ppl
find some faults when they review ur document v try to find some fault in
the way the world is created.. But then .. i wuz thinking, the creator
being so perfect, can he actually do or create something with fault in it.?
it has to be defenitely us who find faults which actually do not exist in
this world but which exists only in our mind.. just like it is said that
..what all one sees around them in their daily life is what all is actually
present in one's mind. my conclusion is that the world as it is created ..
is created with beauty in every sense. Let's try to enjoy the beauty.

But then we are also his creation, why is that we are behaving the way we do. ..
I would say that the same way we create something and test it .. may be creator is also testing. But that means.. we, who are his creation, have some fault.. ?? I don't have an answer for this. Cuz i said earlier that all creation should be beautiful... hmmm.. interesting thought!!.. :)

Second-hand life..

2006-03-12T00:42:00.000-05:00

This is an excerpt from 'Fountain head by Ayn rand.. something which everyone knows is true but none wud ve the guts to accept it.. here it goes..

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"" Yes! And, Isn't that the root of every despicable action? Not selfishness, but precisely the absence of the self. Look at them. The man who cheats and lies, but preserves a respectable front. He knows himself to be dishonest, but others think he is honest and he derives his self-respect from that, second hand. The man who takes credit for an achievement which is not his own. He knows himself to be mediocre, but he is great in the eyes of others. The frustated wretch who professes love for the inferior and clings to those less endowed, in order to establish his own superiority by comparision. The man whose sole aim is to make money. Now, i don't see anything evil in the desire to make money. But, money is only a means to some end. If a man wants it for a personal purpose, to invest in his industry, to study, to create, to travel, he is completely moral. But, the men who place money first go much beyond that. Personal luxury is a limited endeavour. What they want is ostentation: to show, to stun, to entertain, to impress others. THEY are second-handers.Look at our so-called cultural endeavors. A Lecturer who spouts some borrowed rehash of nothing at all that means nothing at all to him - and the people who listen who don't give a damn, but sit there in order to tell their friends that they have attended a lecture by a famous name. Deriving the unknown meaning of life from others' definition. ALL SECOND-HANDERS.""

... "They have no concern for facts, ideas, work. They are concerned only with people. They dont ask: "Is this true?"" They ask: "Is this what others think is true?". Not to judge, but to repeat. Not to do, but to give the impression of doing. Not creation, but show. Not ability, but friendship. Not merit, but pull. What would happen to the world without those who would think, work, produce. Those are the egotists. You don't think through another's brain. You don't work through another's hand. When you suspend your faculty of independent judgement, you suspend consciousness. To stop consciosness is to stop LIFE. Second-handers have no sense of reality. Their reality is not within them, but around them. That is the emptiness that i couldn't understand in people.Men without an ego. Opinion without a rational process. Motion without brakes or motor. Power without responsibility. The second-handers acts, but the source of his action is scattered in every other living person. You can't speak to him. He can't hear. He won't hear..." (cuz he knows you are right but doesn't want to let go off others baseless and well-cast opinion)
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Many of us will be knowing all those things written above. We almost live our lives like this. Not almost,but actually. I have asked many.. why don't you think on your own.. including to some really close, family, others and myself. Some listen. Some hear. Even i sometimes won't listen to myself. Most of us listen to others. The others who live their life and not our's. Doesn't mean you have to be arrogant and listen to only you. Sometimes, during those really rare times, you have to listen only to you...I would say that we have a perfect system inside us which will tell us to do certain things and not to do some other. But, when we go against it in order to gain all fake "realities" in life, we are actually cheating ourselves.. The self which has to have the greatest importance and self-respect..without which others won't even care a damn about you. Life is short folks .. live it!! LIVE IT FOR THE REAL YOU!!

Do read fountain head.. !! Sometimes we find our thoughts in some books.. this is something like that.

YOU are UniQuE ..

2006-02-09T09:34:00.000-05:00

You Are Unique

Enjoy that uniqueness. You do not have to pretend in order to seem more like someone else. You weren't meant to be like someone else. You do not have to lie to conceal the parts of you that are not like what you see in anyone else.

You were meant to be different. Nowhere ever in all of history will the same things be going on in anyone's mind, soul and spirit as are going on in yours right now.

If you did not exist, there would be a hole in creation, a gap in history, something missing from the plan for humankind. Treasure your uniqueness. It is a gift given only to you. Enjoy it and share it!

No one can reach out to others in the same way that you can. No one can speak your words. No one can convey your meanings. No one can comfort with your kind of comfort. No one can bring your kind of understanding to another person.

No one can be cheerful and lighthearted and joyous in your way. No one can smile your smile. No one else can bring the whole unique impact of you to another human being.

Share your uniqueness. Let it be free to flow out among your family and friends and people you meet in the rush and clutter of living wherever you are. That gift of yourself was given you to enjoy and share. Give yourself away!

See it! Receive it! Let it tickle you! Let it form you and nudge you and inspire you!

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Solution..? Does it exist??

2005-12-18T10:45:00.000-05:00

"Find the solution..!! ".....U mus ve heard it quite a lot of times.. To "find" a solution it shud be realised tat the solution already exists somewhere. The only action tat is important is the process of "finding" it...Before embarking on to gt a solution, it shud b believed that a solution already exists. This would make the whole process of "finding" very easier.. Or have yu ever thought y some ppl get solution for some prob., which u were not able to??? well, i wud say it is cuz of their of undying, patient and systematic attitude that get them their solution.. and also their "NO FEAR"attitude..ppl most of de time get tis fear as of whether they wud b able to find the sol. or not.. n cuz of tis they tend to align more on the fear factore rather than the real process... And, they won't even realize tat they r thinkin more bout de fear n not the solution itself.. Tis fear is not an obstructing factor for tis case. It happens for all new unknown missions. Missions whose end result u may not know..
So ppl., start believing tat there EXISTS a solution for every problem.. This would make the whole process adventurous and easier...
(another foolosophy by de GYAAN guru ;) )

Killer Fart...

2005-11-15T11:09:00.000-05:00

The fart tat killed me wud 've been actually like this.. maaan.. really bad stomach today.. imagine wakin up at 4 in the mornin to unload.. such a sweet time to do shitty things.. !! well.. so de moral of de story is.. do not eat crab in hyderbad.. i really had 2 blog tis cuz i dont remember anytime in my life wakin up at tat time to DO it.. shit!!..

BeliEve.

2005-11-10T06:45:00.000-05:00

There is a dialogue in the movie matrix, in the end. The oracle’s guard asks “Did you know (that things will end this way)?”. For that the oracle says “No. No.. But I believed..” Though it may be accounted as some passé dialogue, it means a lot. When you start believing in certain things, you may have a picture of how it should end or as of how it should occur. But, during the journey towards the final picture, you may even lose sight of the picture itself, as the journey sometimes may become too hard to continue.

But, one who firmly believes in his ideology always sees only the final picture he has in his mind. No other obstacles will be visible. It is only the picture in your mind which you will see. Everyone will have a picture like that. It may be that of a loving and caring family, a business tycoon, musician, making the lives of people around you better or whatever. How much ever normal or extraordinary your belief is, in most cases you will be the only one who will stick to it. Or say u should be the one atleast.If you need to find an acceptance or if you need to make the belief happen then you should spread it across. Not all humans are same. Definitely, there will be some who will accept your belief. Share the picture of your belief with others, and then only the belief will gain strength. Without people, a belief is nothing. People form the strength and pillars of the belief. If you really feel in your inside that what you believe is genuine and pure, the forces of the nature will also guide you towards it’s completion. Forces of nature?? (courtesy: alchemist by Paulo coelho) I think something like that actually exists. Else how come things finally happen the way I want it to happen, negative or positive. Some call it as universal force. The force may exist because of the reason that all living, non-living and living-but-non-living things are made up of basic cells. Everything comes from the same source(courtesy: Deepak chopra).

Just believe.. Just be positive with commitments and discipline.
You do your work.. rest will follow.

Relish the water, not the cup!

2005-10-05T09:12:00.000-04:00

A group of working adults got together to visit their
University lecturer. The lecturer was happy to see
them. Conversation soon turned into complaints about
stress in work and life.

The Lecturer just smiled and went to the kitchen to
get an assortment of cups - some porcelain, some in
plastic, some in glass, some plain looking and some
looked rather expensive and exquisite. The Lecturer
offered his former students the cups to get drinks for
themselves.

When all the students had a cup in hand with water,
the Lecturer spoke: "If you noticed, all the nice
looking, expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind
the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal that you
only want the best for yourselves, that is the source
of your problems and stress. What all of you wanted
was water, not the cup, but we unconsciously went for
the better cups. Just like in life, if Life is Water,
then the jobs, money and position in society are the
cups. They are just tools to hold Life, but the
quality of Life doesn't change. If we only concentrate
on the cup, we won't have time to enjoy the water in
it."

Relish the water, not the cup!

TodaY..

2005-09-09T09:09:00.000-04:00

TODAY I will delete from my diary
two days: yesterday and tomorrow
Yesterday was to learn
and tomorrow will be the consequence
of what I can do today.

TODAY I will face life
with the conviction that this day
will not ever return.

TODAY is the last opportunity
I have to live intensely, happily and lovingly
as no one can assure me
that I will see tomorrow's sunrise.

TODAY I will be brave enough
not to let any opportunity pass me by,
my only alternative is to succeed.

TODAY I will invest
my most valuable resource: my time,
in the most invaluable work:
my life;

I will spend each minute
passionately to make
today a different
and unique day in my life.

TODAY I will defy every obstacle
that appears on my way trusting
I WILL succeed.

TODAY I will resist pessimism
and will conquer the world with a smile,
with the positive attitude of expecting always the best.

TODAY I will make of every ordinary task
a sublime expression,

TODAY I will have my feet on the ground
understanding reality

TODAY I will take the time to be happy
and will leave my footprints and my presence
in the hearts of others.

TODAY I will not expect much from others’.
I will do the best possible work from my part.. rest is left to the almighty ..

TODAY I will be more disciplined, committed with
Abundant patience to learn and to take the best
Possible step for a better tomorrow.

TODAY, I invite you to begin a new season
where we can dream
that everything we undertake is possible and we fulfil it,
with joy and dignity.

Have a wonderful TODAY pal..
and a better one tomorrow!
-Anonymous author

Echoes from heart..

2005-09-07T11:26:00.000-04:00

Sometimes we close our eyes and just listen to the echoes of our hearts. We all fall in love and there are times when we love so much that we lose ourselves in our own emotions. More often than not, we wonder why there is love that grows and there is love that grows cold.

We would start to search for answers and try to find where love has gone wrong. But in the end, we find ourselves where we started for we cannot question love when it has its own reason. Love will always be as it always has been silent, mysterious and deeply profound. Many of us believe that love is forever, that love never dies only to be disillusioned in the end when we find ourselves empty and longing. We mistakenly look at love as a need to be fulfilled. But it is only a gift given to us. We shouldn’t hold it in our hands for we may never find the strength to let it go when it decided to leave. We should only embrace its warmth and glow while it last and then freely open our arms when it’s time to say goodbye.

We fall in love with someone; we don’t want that feeling to end for it is everything we want it to be. We pray that love will stay and grow in our hearts. But if it doesn’t, then we should never let ourselves taken by it.

For life should not end where heartaches begin...

There is always a reason why we have to move on. When we have to say goodbye to the things we wanted to stay forever. Let us not waive our hands with a heavy heart. For love will set its wings free and find a place where it belongs. We may have lost it but then again, when we close our eyes and just listen to the echoes of our hearts, we will hear that feeling resounding silently forever. Then we’ll know that it has never left us. For the good that we have become of love will always stay. It will always be there reminding us that we should be thankful and happy, not because we have lost love, but because for once in our lives, that feeling lived in our hearts and made us happy. - Anonymous author

LiFe: LiMiteD EdiTion

2005-09-07T11:22:00.000-04:00

Is there any simple rule to lead one’s life in a better way? Everyone would like to know the answer for this one. Including myself. So, I as usual started observing people and their living patterns. Well, I have not done any extensive research in it. But then from what all I have seen I can say the answer would be something like this. Live within limits. What I mean is that whatever you do , don’t overdo it or “under”do it. Just try to attain the balance. May be that is why some say life is a balancing act. But that doesn’t mean that you got to limit urself in the way you think. If u set a goal, you would obviously know how to attain it. You can attain it you follow the set path. If you do anything that underscores or “overscores”, then the path will vanish. Everyone have this gut feeling in themselves i.e. the conscious within. They feel that certain things should not be done, but then they do it and start feeling miserable. To avoid this, a certain level of discipline and patience should be observed… But the strange thing is that ppl know what to do and what not to do in 90% cases, but then they end up doing what they shouldn’t be doing. Why?? :[]

What you have is what you got..
Live It.. !!

Live NOW!!

Work n life...

2005-09-07T11:14:00.000-04:00

ppl gotta work everyday.Daily slogging or daily killing time or daily .. they dunno wut they do. Most of whom i have seen work for a living.They never get the feeling that when they work they are actually living.I mean most of 'em don't enjoy their work.They jus come for the money part of it. Thinking they would b able to see all those movies n visit all those pubs, only if they work. Well, tatz true. But, work shoud not be seen like something to pay off ur bills.If tatz the case, u ll never get invlolved in wut u do.

work should be such that it shud bring in the enthusiasm everyday.or say it should be something like you jus get dissolved in it the entire day and when the day ends you shud get a feeling that the day was used to live.

work shud not be done for the sake of working. Though, all r not lucky to do their kinda stuff atleast the attitude towards the "uninterested" work should be changed. else the journey of life won't be much interesting... We all have only one life.rite??.. let's enjoi living when we work instead of working for a living. Hope YOU get lucky about tat.

About me?? m still searching for that work that would bring in a meaningfull difference to my way of life and also to those around me.. :)

Wish you a happy "meaningfull work" hunting..!! :)

A new day. A new confusion..??

2005-09-07T11:06:00.000-04:00

I actually had a practice of writing things into my diary during school days. I continued it till me 1st 2 yrs. in college and then i just don't remember what happened to it...Now, technology has made me more lazy. There is no need for me to maintain a physical diary or for that matter, search for a pen when u really need it. I am not actually trying to come up with a sequel for my long lost diary. The old one was ..well lets not talk about it.

This one will just contain experiences of my life. .a life which i want to fall in love with very much so that i can appreciate it 's virtues when i really can. I decided that i won't write any day-to-day happenings. But instead i will write my thoughts. I want to write what i learn everyweek if not everyday...so, lets start blogging more.. :)

Actually, last week some questions haunted me such as whyz that i am so different? why is that i am so ambitious? .. why shud i feel better??? It is because i BELIEVE that if i don't feel better about things that happen around me, then other's around me won't feel any better. My thoughts reflect in my surroundings, They take shape and become real sooon that they start effecting my life. So, i thought i will just change the way i think about myself. If i don't feel that i am confident enough to face the obstacles in life and work, then i know i will never be confident. The only thing i can do is, do some actions that give results. Some short-term plans that give results that can boost my confidence superfast...bit by bit, that is how things in nature actually work.

Every action you do everyday accumulates and give a big result one fine day.There is defenitley no short cuts.Absolutely not. And one more thing i know is that If you don't change NOW, then you never will.

Confusions?? is there any way to clear it?? If yes, what i would say is just be honest with yourself. That is the primary step that has to be taken. When you are honest, you are being good to yourself and also to other's around you. Some events will make you feel etter and some will make you feel like a jerk. And, here are always lessons to be learnt by being a jerk.You will know where you went wrong and why. If you repeat it, ..well, forgive urself, If you repeat again, then also forgive urself.Again if you repeat, then you are beyond repair, my friend.

Confusions are like chinese noodles. In the plate, it seems each noodle is interlinked with the other and the feeling u get is that u gotta have the whole plate of noodles at 1 go. As u know, u can't do that :). U gotta take only some noodles using ur fork and then consume it steadily.Finally, the plate becomes empty.Same way, though u might be having oodles of confusions, take one confusion at a time and dissolve it.Finally, ur plate called mind will be clean, filled wit peace. why am i writing about confusions so much??? well.. am i confused?? :)

Believe that If you feel that you are different from others because of the way you think, then you ARE.. Feel proud about it. Atleast YOU do not want to be the sheep in the herd. wut say, budd?? :)

LiVe LiGht

2005-09-07T10:39:00.000-04:00

What is Livelight??

Is it a new cigarette lighter?? Well.. nope. ;) But, this CAN be a lighter.. It can light up your life. That’s what I think it can do. It’s just a simple understanding. A simple truth. Here it goes..

Just take a look around you. You can see lots of people. Lots of people generating tons of thoughts. A thought is what sets the spark in life. A wrong thought..well.. that is it We people, may be due to the way we are built, tend to carry these thoughts wherever we are. It starts from the moment you open your eyes after a night’s sleep and end’s when we try to end the end the day wit a wonderfull sleep. But then even during our most relaxed time, that is the time we sleep, we think. Sometimes they come in the form of pictures and it becomes a dream. It becomes so real that sometimes we love it and sometimes not.

We tend to carry wrong thoughts, confused thoughts, a horrible past .. and so on. It never ends. All these unwanted thoughts build up and it will make our life heavy. So heavy that sometimes we forget we are actually living. If one has the power to choose the right thought, then life becomes lighter and lovely. And, hence LiveLighT… Livelight and fly high..

If you need a meaningful life, select meaningful thoughts. Let there be light in our life..